Hello again, my friends. Are you happy? Is everything in your life making you happy? Are you the happiest little ray of sunshine on the face of this earth? Are you following your bliss and living your passion?
For the past few years I feel like the only thing anyone wants to talk about is happiness. Being happy, finding happiness and only doing shit that makes you happy. We’re obsessed with happiness and are sold on the idea that happiness is the only thing that matters. And it’s driving me insane. I can’t be the only one, right?
I’m convinced that this never ending search for happiness is making us less happy; it’s making us more confused and stressed out. Every time work annoys me or stress me out (and trust me, it’s a lot) I end up in a happiness spiral. I question if my career is the right career for me. I question if it’s making me happy or if I should be following my bliss. But here’s the reality, my bliss is napping, eating and shopping … all things I need a job to afford. And no, I don’t love my job. Some days I hate it, some days I enjoy it. Every day it’s a job that serves the purpose it was set out to serve. To put food on my table and make me a socially acceptable human being.
So my ask to you, my fellow humans, is if we can just shut the actual fuck up about finding happiness for one hot second. Let’s be present in our lives as they are and try to make where we are now work for us. But, I’m not an expert and there is a good chance I have absolutely no idea what I’m talking about, so here are some articles and podcasts for your reading and listening pleasure.
Six articles on happiness
- How to be perfectly unhappy
- America is obsessed with happiness — and it’s making us miserable
- A formula for happiness
- In praise of maintenance (not directly on happiness, but I found a lot of parallels)
- Getting unstuck
- Simply happy
And sure, I realize that talking about how I want to stop talking about happiness is a bit silly and hypocritical. But now that I’ve said it, can we just stop already? Because what does it even mean to “find happiness?” Someone let me know when you find out, but in the meantime I’ll just be trying to make the best of my life, wherever I am in the moment.
Photography: Madeline Rose Heising Photography